Sep 8 2016 Can I send you a dick pic?Category: Business     07:50AM   2

Dear KC, you list "body image issues" as something you work with. Does that include the penis? I worry mine is too small and figure you've seen a few so would be a good judge. It's smaller than what I see in porn, and though I've been told by past girlfriends that it's fine (average-sized) they could be lying. I'd appreciate your professional opinion. Can I email a pic?

Thanks for reaching out. I empathize with your concerns. We all want to feel like we measure up, but in our judgmental society, there's a definite lack of appreciation for variety and diversity (regarding genitals or anything else).

I've been there myself. When I was 20, I had a fling with a man I really liked. He was quite a playboy, but also a good guy who'd never purposely hurt a woman's feelings. One night over the phone, he commented on my labia in a way that nearly scarred me for life.

"What the hell do you mean I have 'big lips'?" 

"Calm down, it's cool. I like full juicy pussy lips," he said, genuinely nonplussed at my shock and dismay. 

I hurriedly ended the call and spent the rest of the evening in a fetal position on my couch, wondering how many other women had "big lips" and whether or not some men truly liked them, as my lover had claimed. I'd been intimate with half a dozen woman myself by then, and was aware of differences in genital size, color, and shape, but hadn't given my labia much thought. To me, they were all lovely and delicious. Genital aesthetics had never once entered my mind.

I eventually quit worrying about it and it never came up again, except for the few times I brought it up. When asked, my lovers expressed opinions identical to my own. Basically, "Yeah, I suppose they're on the large side of average, but who cares? It's all good, as long as they bring you pleasure."

My point is, as far as body image issues go, I feel ya. It's human nature to want to fit in. Also to fall prey to the belief we must look alike in order to do that. Well, we don't all look alike (and thank goodness for that)! I should know, since (as you say) I've "seen a few." Hundreds to be exact. So, yes, I will view and rate your dick pics. On a couple conditions.

I'm happy to give my professional opinion about where on the "size & appearance scale" your penis falls. But as a professional I must be compensated. To send dick pics for review, email your request to listing specific concerns (size, shape, girth, color, etc.). Do NOT send pics in your initial email. Once I've received your request, I'll send instructions for making a payment of $20. Once that's received you may email pics. You may send up to 3, which should be enough to cover a few angles. (If you feel you must send more, the fee is then $10 each.) 

I understand your concerns and am happy to give my honest opinion, as long as you remember it's just that: one woman's opinion. I'm not a doctor and do not give medical advice. If you think you have an STI or cancerous growth, call your doctor immediately. I have zero help there. 

Also, keep in mind this is not a game to me, nor a way to get my rocks off. It's solely to provide information and lend perspective in an area few people are comfortable discussing or qualified to speak on. Hopefully, to you, this info will be validating and confidence boosting. For me, it's simply 20 minutes of my time well spent, writing 2-3 short paragraphs about an area in which I have expertise. Once my review is sent, there's no need to continue correspondence. (To be clear, once you've received your review, unless you have valid follow-up questions, do not continue emailing.)

Lastly, My Penis and I is a touching and funny documentary by a guy with similar concerns. It's about embracing your body, loving and appreciating your genitals as they are. I love my full, juicy labia and wouldn't trade them for anyone's. I feel the same about every penis I've had the pleasure of meeting. For the record, two of the best lovers of my life had smaller-than-average penises. For me, and many other women, size just isn't a factor, aesthetically or sexually.

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KC said on 08-29-2016 at 10:37 am:

GD, I'm glad you've reached out. PE (premature ejaculation or unintentional ejaculation) is the most common reason clients seek me out. I'm happy to say I have a very high success rate in helping overcome this issue. Many clients notice improvement within their first few sessions, others require a longer series (6-12 sessions) plus time "out in the field" to practice what they've learned. (Very challenging cases may benefit from extended coaching sessions.)

Email if you'd like to discuss it further. I've lately incorporated long distance sessions via Skype or FaceTime, with excellent results. So if you're not in Austin, San Antonio, or Houston, there are other options.


Go Deep said on 08-28-2016 at 4:15 pm:
Admittedly, I was in my 20s long before cell phones and cameras. I used to be really proud of my penis. I'm older now and have experienced PE. Every time I get close to my partner I worry that this is going to ruin our experience. Can you help?