Got No Game?Intimacy / Jul 17th 2017  at 04:31PM   /   0

Dear KC, I'm crazy about a woman I've taken on three dates, each more awkward than the last. I don't know why, but I lose all my wit, charm, and conversational skills in her presence. I can barely open her door without tripping over myself. We have a certain spark, but at this rate how long can it last? I got no game and don't know what to do about it.

This is an issue I work with frequently. Self-consciousness is self-perpetuating and performance anxiety is powerful. You only have to be derailed once before hitting a downward spiral. 

Our goal is to reverse that negative trajectory through a string of positive experiences. Practicing open communication and a mindful approach to reciprocal touch, this gradual process of desensitization will override self-defeating patterns. 

As this process involves a certain amount of repetitive reinforcement, I recommend a series of 3-6 sessions for longstanding issues.

 


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