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SESSION DISCOUNTS, packages & intensives [Pinned post]Business  /  Dec 31st 2018

I offer discounted rates for Progressive Intimacy Coaching only. (Please see description on "In Private" page.) I do not discount any sessions other than Progressive Intimacy Coaching. 

Discounts available for:

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A Comprehensive Guide to Premature EjaculationSex  /  Sep 19th 2018

Premature ejaculation (also known as unintentional or early ejaculation) is the most commonly cited male sexual issue. It’s been reported to affect 20-30% of the male population, however with most of those cases turning out to be "occasional" or "situational," current thinking puts the prevalence of treatment-worthy PE closer to 8-15%.

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Living an Orgasmic Life, by Xanet PailetActivities  /  Sep 12th 2018

The field of intimacy coaching (also sex, love, and relationship coaching) is expanding at a rapid rate, and yet the wide range of available modalities is off he average person’s radar. And why wouldn't it be? Until the need arises, why waste time Googling “painful sex,” “can’t orgasm,” or “Just what the hell is Tantric sex anyway?” (Or was that last one just me, off & on, throughout my 30s...? Ok

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Video Interview: Kissing, Seduction, Lust, Libido, Empathy, and (Consensual) ObjectificationIntimacy  /  Jul 25th 2018

Check out my new video interview (a first!), with Derek Hart. Nearly ninety minutes of fun, fascinating, Intimacy Coaching related topics.


More Help for Premature EjaculationSex  /  May 24th 2018

Due to my recent book release, time is in short supply these days. I have a list of "Dear KC" questions to answer and post, yet one or two thousand other tasks that need tending to first.

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Prep Your PadActivities  /  Apr 23rd 2018

Dear KC, What do you mean my home isn't date-friendly?!

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How does performance anxiety take hold of my brain?Intimacy  /  Mar 22nd 2018

Dear KC, How does performance anxiety take such powerful hold of me, and at the worst times? It's gotten so bad I find myself making excuses to end dates early, to avoid risking more embarrassing ED. Why is my body suddenly working against me?

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What's the difference between coaching and counseling?Activities  /  Feb 21st 2018

Dear KC, Aside from education and licensing requirements, what's the difference between a coach and therapist? 

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What are the biggest issues for men & women dating in their 60s?Compatibility  /  Jan 20th 2018

I was recently asked to do an interview on the topic of senior dating. Among other questions, I was asked about the top challenges men and women face, when dating at age 60 or older. The topic is not unfamiliar to me, since many of my clients are in that group. Still, to prepare for a range of questions, I did some pre-interview research. After polling a few dozen friends, clients, and acquaintances, my findings were as I'd exp

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What's the difference between sensual and erotic?Intimacy  /  Oct 19th 2017

Dear KC, It seems like sensuality is an aspect of your coaching work. How does sensual differ from erotic? Are they two distinct spots on the same scale? And if so, where is the line between them?

The short answer:
Sensual pertains solely to the senses, of which there are five physical. Sensuality is not inherently sexual, though it can lead to and enhance sexual activity.

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Why aren't men better at opening up?Intimacy  /  Sep 19th 2017

Dear KC, My boyfriend is under a lot of stress at work, but won't talk to me about it. I tell him I'm here for him, but how can I make him feel better if he won't open up? He's always been this way, like if we've hit a rough patch in our relationship and I want to understand what's not working for him, he'll clam up and change the subject. Why don't men understand that it helps to talk about this stuff?

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How to have the grooming talk?Intimacy  /  Aug 18th 2017

Dear KC, I'm seeing a new guy who's a real outdoorsy type. He hikes, camps, and spends extended periods in the wilderness. He's phenomenally fit, yet also unkempt, with excess hair everywhere (crotch, nose, eyebrows, ears, etc.) Also, he doesn't trim his nails often enough (toenails especially, ugh). The lack of basic grooming is a real distraction (read: turn-off). The thing is, I r

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Got No Game?Intimacy  /  Jul 17th 2017

Dear KC, I'm crazy about a woman I've taken on three dates, each more awkward than the last. I don't know why, but I lose all my wit, charm, and conversational skills in her presence. I can barely open her door without tripping over myself. We have a certain spark, but at this rate how long can it last? I got no game and don't know what to do about it.

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How can I be more physically in tune with my partner?Intimacy  /  Jun 16th 2017

Dear KC, I was in a sexless marriage for twenty-five years. I've recently begun dating and suddenly feel like a bull in a china shop. I'm graceful enough on a basketball court (or once was, anyway), and even danced with my daughter at her wedding without stepping on her toes. In bed though, I'm rusty, awkward and clumsy. Can a person learn sensuality? 

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Please make the clitoris less mysterious.Sex  /  May 14th 2017

Dear KC, in my (admittedly limited) experience, when it comes to oral sex every woman likes something different. There doesn't seem to be one surefire technique for successful cunnilingus. Or is there? If so, please share! When I ask for guidance, my partners are not as helpful as you'd expect. (In fact, if you could explain that, I'd also appreciate it.)

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Help! I need thrusting techniques.Sex  /  Apr 13th 2017

Dear KC, I'm a jackhammer lover. Until very recently, I didn't know that was a thing. A woman I'd been dating just broke up with me, then told a mutual friend she hated my "jack-hammering." It was a little humiliating, frankly, but the bottom line is I want to better satisfy my future partners. I'll take any tips, but especially thrusting techniques, if you have them.

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How do I know if I need intimacy coaching?Intimacy  /  Mar 12th 2017

Dear KC, I have a tendency to get nervous and self-conscious during sex, especially with new partners (which seems ridiculous considering I've been having sex for twenty years). Anyway, when I'm nervous nothing works like it should, and the more worried I get the more likely it is to happen. I've had great sex in the past, thanks to rare cases of instant chemistry or maybe just dumb luck, who knows? The great ex

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Performance anxiety and body image issues are ruining our sex life.Sex  /  Feb 11th 2017

Dear KC, I'm aware you don't currently see couples but I hope you can provide a little advice for me and my husband. We have a great relationship overall, but our sex life seems to be stalled. I've always been a little insecure about my body, but it's worsened since having twins. While my husband does everything he can to please me, I can't seem to quiet the voice in my head that tells me I'm flabby, saggy, and unsexy. More often

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How can I tell how a woman wants to be touched?Sex  /  Jan 10th 2017

Dear KC, I'm a fairly experienced guy, yet with every new partner I discover no two women are wired the same. Some love oral, some don't. Those who do want it done in highly specific ways. I've tried asking for instruction and guidance, but it makes some women uncomfortable. It's hard to get clear answers. Am I not asking the right way?

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Why won't she fall in love with me?Chemistry  /  Nov 9th 2016

Dear KC, I'm a great catch. I have a promising career, healthy income, and beautiful house. I'm also handsome, funny, polite, and great in bed, yet none of my relationships last more than six months. My last girlfriend said she was tired of trying to make me a better man. That I interrupted her all the time and was always late picking her up for dates. Aren't those little issues worth the trade-off of an otherwise go

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